What is bliss?

For me, sheer bliss has been the opportunity to be home with my newborn son.  I’m grateful that my doctor put me out on 12 weeks disability after my c-section.  I’m grateful that I had the foresight to take out supplemental disability insurance which afforded me more money towards staying out.  And, I’m grateful that my husband and I were responsible and able to save up extra money for my anticipated time off from work.  What I’m unhappy about, is that we live in Long Island with the standard of living is so high that in order for a family to have a nice home, nice cars, live in a nice neighborhood and have nice things, both parents are forced to work.  I hate it.  I have absolutely no desire what so ever to go back to work.  I’m not afraid of work or don’t want to work.  I don’t mind it at all and quite frankly, I prefer to have the extra money.  But, I don’t want to leave my newborn son.  I don’t want to miss a second of him being this tiny.  I’m so happy that I have witnessed his first smile, his first laugh, the first time he rolled over.  I don’t want to miss anything else.  And with him being in day care full time I likely will miss something.  That tears my heart out.  Truth be told I have been looking into at home positions, however, those are looking difficult to come by.  Especially since my field of expertise is in social services and not computers/technology.  What’s a poor mother to a new born blogger to do?


Help me dress my baby?!

Want to help me dress my baby?  He’s a cute baby, see:

Tummy time (11 weeks old)

I am in search for a Halloween costume.  I have two ideas in mind, a monkey and a panda.  Why you ask?  Because he makes these cure little money noises and on his activity mat he keeps baby babbling to a plastic panda.  You’d think those would be easy cute costumes to find, right?  We’ll, to find one that’s drop dead adorable and affordable is proving to be nearly impossible.  I’ve had no luck what so ever with the panda costume.  Regarding the monkey, I’ve found some (toys r us, Amazon, ect…) on the usual websites but nothing that’s super cute or has great reviews or that’s available in his size (my baby is only 11.5 lbs and he’s 24 inches long).  I’m finding plenty available (monkey costume) for babies that are 12 months + but clearly that won’t work for my little blue eyed boy.  Any suggestions?  If you come across any websites that have what I’m looking for please let me know!!!

Where’s the “go”?

Lately Tara isn’t going anywhere, at least not far.  Yes, it’s due to the baby for the most part and don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love maternity leave and NEVER want to go back to work, but, I do want a vacation.  All jesting (pervious post) aside, I’m honestly stumped with trying to figure out how to balance our little bundle of joy with Mike and I going away from a little weekend get away.  We would definitely bring him along.  I’m no where near ready to leave him with anyone else for over nights at this point.  Usually when the hubby and I think about a little weekend get away, we immediately think of two locations: Wilmington, VT and Fells Point, Baltimore, MD.  Mike and I got engaged in Wilmington (The White House Inn) and while at my cousins wedding in Baltimore, an old college friend recommended hanging out in Fells Point, it was a hit with us.  We love the history, the vibe, the bars.  Oh, the bars!  But a bar is no place for a baby.  And Vermont, while beautiful, we are thinking about going away from said 3 day weekend getaway during our anniversary, which is in December, and thus really cold in Vermont.  So what to do that isn’t too far from home and infant appropriate?  Hmm… 

Thank God for the creation of these little gems

When you have a baby, you absolutely need provisions.  Now some things just make life easier, and when you are sleep deprived, you need all the help you can get.  This is my little list of must have items for a new born.  Now, I want to note that my list does not include the reduntent no-brainier items (i.e.: bottles, clothes, ect…).  When we go to have another baby (yes Mike, we are having at least one more), these are items I will either hang on to or buy new again.

  • The SwaddlePlus by Aden + Anais.  I absolutely love these blankets.  I have 6 of them and could easily use more.  These are breathable swaddled blankets and they are awesome, especially since I have a summer baby.  They are soft, sturdy, wrap up my baby like a dream and don’t leave him a sweaty mess when he wakes.  I used the as a blanket, swaddle, burp cloth, changing pad, ect…  So many uses.  I love them.
  • Avent Soothie, because all babies need a binkie.  Yes I believe that.  Yes it’s good for them to self soothe.  These things are awesome.  
  • Tommie Tippee bibs.  These things are great!  They have this dribble absorbent ring around the neck area which is great with newborns since they are tiny and this stays close to their tiny necks (bibs with big gaps in the neck area annoy me since the dribble/spit-up can go down their necks).  
  • World Explorer ExerSaucer.  Right now Lucas is only on the infant activity mat part of it but this sucker will stay with our little squirt probably well after his 1st birthday.  He loves it and he’s only a month old.  
  • Baby Jogger Stroller is the bomb.  We have the car seat by Britex and we love both.  The main selling feature, besides the cool design, is the fact that you pull the little fabric lever and it folds right up.  I’m a total spaz when it comes to strollers and I manage to not look like an idiot with this one.  Worth the money.  
  • The Boppy, because everyone needs a Boppy.  Not sure you need a Boppy?  If nothing else you need the Boppy during those 3 am feedings when you are holding your baby and trying not to fall asleep during his feeding and drop said baby.  You’ll be grateful that you had the Boppy, it just may save your baby’s life.  Also, it comes in handy as a pillow for mom  as an alternative to the horrible pillows at the hospital before you’re discharged with said cute baby.  You’ll thank me later.

I hope these help someone out there!

If I could do it all over again…

So my hospital/birthing experience, of course, was unique to me.  I had a c-section.  If I could do it all over this is what I wish I knew before going through it all and what was useful to bring / what I wish I had brought with me.

We arrived at the hospital at 5:30am.  It was a scheduled c-section.  The cafeteria was not open.  I know my husband now wishes he had listened to me and gotten food on the way to the hospital for him.  I couldn’t eat anything (c-section = surgery, duh).  He didn’t get an opportunity to eat until the afternoon.  

For me the overall worst part of the c-section procedure was the nurse blowing the vain in my left hand while putting in my IV before the surgery took place.  If someone is identified as a trainee or if you overhear that the person person putting you’re IV in is fairly new, ask for someone experienced.  My damn hand was still hurting days after my discharge.

Don’t eat anything with mushrooms the day before your c-section.  FYI, it’s totally normal to throw up after your anesthesia is administered.  I threw up the mushrooms I had on my pizza for lunch the day before.  The anesthesiologist and my husband were in a deep discussion over why the mushrooms didn’t completely digest in my system.  Not the conversation I would have expected to be board by during my c-section.  

Durning the c-section the doctor moves some vital organs outside of your body while getting your baby out.  I did not know this.  This was told to me after the c-section.  This freaked me out.  I wished I had known beforehand.  

The hospital I delivered at was very pro-breastfeeding.  Which is fine if you are planning to breastfeed.  If you aren’t or up in the air about it then it could be uncomfortable as the nurses put a lot of pressure on you to nurse the baby.  I was up in the air about it and did say I would give it a try.  Apparently saying that gave the nurses the green light to take my boob and put it in my son’s mouth without asking me.  While I was in recovery.  It happened so fast I had no way to really process what was happening.  I nurses him for 6 days until I couldn’t take the pain anymore.  FYI your nipples can become cracked and could bleed.  My right one did.  And if you have latching issues then it is PAINFUL.  It felt like razor blades were cutting my nipple off whenever my son would nurse, which was every 2-3 hrs.  Think about that for a moment….

You get like no sleep in the hospital.  I didn’t send my son to the nursery since I was nursing him.  Not sure I would have sent him giving the opportunity to do it over.  But it was an option.  Maybe if I wasn’t nursing I would have…  

If I could do it over, pay for a private room if they don’t give you one.  It was an extra $200 a night.  My roommate sucked and it was uncomfortable having to share the room.  Next child I’m definitely paying for a private room.  

About 12 hours after your c-section they get you up to go to the bathroom.  It will look like a murder scene.  Blood was in my bed, on the floor, in the bathroom.  All over the place.  And the nurses not only make you pee into a cup but they watch you do it and help wipe you up.  Throw any pride you have out the window before having a c-section.  People will be look at and touching your privates all day and you won’t even know their names.  

I, like I’m sure most new mothers, brought way too much stuff with me.  Next time I will bring these items again because it actually made sense:

  • My iPad and cell phone. Hospital has free wifi.  TV/phone cost $10 a day.  I didn’t pay for that since I have a cell phone and my iPad has my DirectTV app so I was able to watch TV on that.  Genius on my part 😉
  • Charges for both.  And don’t forget your iPad charger like I did.  They called to say I forgot it but by the time my husband drove back to the hospital the next day to get it, someone had stolen it from the nurses desk.  Bastards.
  • Dry shampoo.  You will not be in the mood to do your hair everyday.  At least I wasn’t.  And I don’t have the type of hair that drys perfectly.  I need products or I have to blow dry/straighten it which again, I wasn’t not in the mood nor position to do.  Dry shampoo was my friend.  Along with a hair tie.  Don’t forget a hair tie like I did.
  • Face wash, contact stuff/glasses (if you wear them), toothbrush and toothpaste.  
  • The boopy.  In addition to it being so useful when nursing/feeding the baby, the hospital pillows suck and I sleeper with it when I wasn’t using it for the baby.
  • Bring like one or two pairs of granny panties.  The granny-er the better.  Night and high up to your belly button or better yet, covering it.  This won’t bother your new c-section scar and it will work out great with wearing those god awful pads when you leave.  Also get a bunch of maxi-pads, because you’ll be bleeding for weeks after giving birth.  I haven’t bleed much but I have bleed every day and my son is 5 weeks old now.  You only need to use the maxi pads on your last day at the hospital and when you get home, the hospital will provide an extremely unflattering mesh panties with ghetto pads while you are there.  
  • Bring very loose fitting PJ’s.  PJ’s that you can quickly whip out a boob when nursing and the nurses/doctors can easily see your c-section area with ease.  I’m glad I did this.  I felt more human in my own clothes and they were way more comfortable than those hospital gowns.  
  • Comfortable PJ’s or clothes to go home in.  You will most likely not want to wear jeans, even the maternity jeans.  I wore PJ’s home.  I kid you not.  I always care how I look, until I was in the hospital for 3 days after aging a baby.  I didn’t care at that point, I just wanted to be comfortable.  
  • Bring a pen.  You’ll have to be signing paperwork and tracking pee and poo and feedings, I wish I had a pen on hand and didn’t have to keep asking for a pencil.  

I hope this helps!

Something new….

On 6/24/16 at 8:23am the newest love of my life came into the world!  Lucas John is the most beautiful baby boy I’ve ever seen and I’m beyond blessed to have this tiny man as my son.  While I was pregnant I read so many reviews about what to expect during your c-section, what to bring with you to the hospital and must have items after baby is born.  I’m sure it’s a total cliche but I feel compelled to give my own opinion as to what to expect since I felt like all those lists I read were stupid and wrong (at least for me).